Relationship Frenzy

The Jealousy Bug

It seems that every time I log onto Facebook another friend is either in a relationship, engaged, getting married, or having a baby.  While it’s always exciting news, it only helps remind me of my pathetic love life.  It always has me wondering…

“Why can’t I have this? Why can’t someone love me like he loves her? Oh what I would give to just have someone like me…”

But trust me, this isn’t happening just to me. Thousands of other single college girls log onto Facebook and endure the same self pity moment. Our human tendency is to be jealous and envy what these other girls have. Life isn’t fair, and even though we’ve been told this 5,000 times, it’s just hard to accept.

Head Start

Unfortunately relationships are beginning earlier than ever. Middle schoolers are dating! It blows my mind. In middle school boys were crazy and honestly I didn’t really want anything to do with them. Sure I had crushes, but I never truly wanted anything to ever happen. And honestly, relationships in middle school and junior high simply seemed like a way to boost your status. I mean, our parents drove us places, what were we supposed to do on a date? I guess relationships didn’t really mean anything to me during these awkward years of life. I was too busy trying to figure out who I was and what I wanted.

The Single Life

 The pressure isn’t too bad in middle school, but once high school hits, the heat is on. 

In high school I was “that girl.” The one who never had a boyfriend. The one who still hadn’t kissed a boy. Four years. Sure I had talked to a few guys, but did anything ever come from it? Nope. Nothing. I envied my friends. They could have had any boy in the entire school, and here I was all alone. I always viewed myself as the third, fifth, seventh, or ninety-ninth wheel. I found groups of girls to go to school dances with. I skipped both years of prom, because honestly who wanted to go by themselves when everyone else went with dates?

I remember wrestling with God and asking Him what it would take for a guy to like me? I would argue with Him and beg for a boyfriend. Looking back, it all seems so stupid and desperate – but isn’t this what we go through? Sometimes it’s not necessarily a conversation with God, but rather a thought in our heads. We wonder what is wrong with us.

But there is nothing wrong with us.

We are beautiful. We are loved. Sometimes we just need to wait for God to place the right person in our lives. It’s okay to wait for things. Waiting builds character.

Don’t give up. God loves you.

And just remember – begging God for a boyfriend doesn’t work. Trust me. I’ve tried.